22: I Wasn’t Straight, but I Also Wasn’t Gay

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It’s our first episode about queer Christianity, and Jenna De Witt joins us to talk about aromantic asexuality. We talk about what it’s been like for her to navigate a church life and secular life that assumes everyone is sexually attracted to someone, and Jenna shares her calling with us for asexual people to know that they aren’t alone.

Jenna DeWitt is an aromantic asexual Methodist. She spent a decade writing and editing in Christian media, and now edits a wide variety of publications from tech support to books to articles to curriculum. She holds a bachelor of arts in journalism from Baylor University. She’s originally from a small town near the border of Eastern New Mexico and the West Texas Panhandle, but now she lives in sunny Southern California, where she co-leads the LGBTQIA+ social group at her company. You can read her blog, Invisible Cake Society, and find her on Twitter at @Jenna_DeWitt for more on aromantic asexual advocacy within the church, singleness, mental health, and feminist pop music. 

Show Notes:

Party of One: Truth, Longing, and the Subtle Art of Singleness by Joy Beth Smith

Now She Rises

Six ways to be an ally to asexual people by Leni Morris in Stonewall

The Asexual Visibility and Education Network

Prejudice Against “Group X” (Asexuals) by Gordon Hodson for Psychology Today

Asexuality: The ‘X’ in a Sexual World by Dominique Mosbergen for Huffpost

This is a list of books for you to consider

These resources are by people who identify as part of the queer community or as same sex attracted. We highly recommend that in your search to understand the LGBTQ community better, you choose resources by people who are part of the community or by people who are able to personally identify with it rather than resources by people who are straight.

If you think there’s a resource that should be on this list, please send us an email wheredowegofromherepodast at gmail dot com.

God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines

Torn: Rescuing the Gospel from the Gays-vs.-Christians Debate by Justin Lee

Does Jesus Really Love Me?: A Gay Christian’s Pilgrimage in Search of God in America by Jeff Chu

Beyond Shame: Creating a Healthy Sex Life on Your Own Terms by Matthias Roberts (who will be a guest on our show in June)

Is God Anti-Gay? : And Other Questions About Homosexuality, the Bible and Same-Sex Attraction by Sam Allberry

Gay Girl, Good God: The Story of Who I Was, and Who God Has Always Been by Jackie Hill Perry

Born Again This Way: Coming out, coming to faith, and what comes next by Rachel Gilson

Washed and Waiting: Reflections on Christian Faithfulness and Homosexuality by Wesley Hill