97: Gaslighting in Relationships and in the Church

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We can’t go a week without hearing about another Christian leader or ministry accused of abusive leadership. Is this a uniquely evangelical problem? We talk today about gaslighting, the tactic undergirding most forms of abuse in intimate relationships and institutions. What is gaslighting? Why is it so damaging? How do we recover if we’ve been gaslit by someone  we love or in church?   Chuck De Groat joins us to unpack this must-understand topic. 

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Show Notes:
When Narcissism Comes to Church by Chuck DeGroat (Koorong)
Why ‘Gaslight’ Hasn’t Lost Its Glow (NY Times)

20: Don’t use faith to bypass the body with Aundi Kolber
33: What comes after grief? With KJ Ramsey
65: Is Your Love Preoccupied, Avoidant, or Disorganized  with Krispin Mayfield
66: Relationships and Attachment Triggers  with Krispin Mayfield
92: The Quest for Beauty, Desire, and Longing with Curt Thompson
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Chuck De Groat is a Professor of Counseling and Christian Spirituality and Interim D.Min. Director at Western Theological Seminary .  He’s also a faculty member for the Soul Care Institute. He is the author of When Narcissism Comes to Church: Healing Your Community from Emotional and Spiritual Abuse.

He is a licensed therapist, a spiritual director, author, and speaker and  a Minister of Word and Sacrament in the Reformed Church in America. Chuck pastored in Orlando and San Francisco before transitioning to training and forming pastors. His experience includes training clergy in issues of abuse and trauma, pastor and planter assessments, church consultations, and investigations of abuse among pastors and within congregations. Follow Chuck on Twitter and Instagram